The two wedding-related websites I check most often are quite possibly the antithesis to one another: TheKnot.com and OffbeatBride.com.
But I think the combination plays well to my own combination of traditional/mainstreamness and don't-give-a-hoot rebelliousness. I take a little from column A, a little from column B and voila! It's a special Katie mix.
When I first got engaged, I picked up like half a dozen bridal magazines (my fiance had severe eye-roll going on while I was doing this) and just tried to find a good place to start. The Knot is one of the most popular magazines and websites and it really got me set on the right path.
But even though we knew from the start we wanted a traditional Catholic ceremony, so many other details of the wedding I thought I was supposed to have just didn't seem right.
So I started searching the 'net for more options. And Offbeat Bride (which is also a book, which I don't have but sort of feel guilty for freely using the website without showing my gratitude monetarily by buying the book ...) showed me how different weddings can be and helped me feel comfortable inserting some "offbeat" features into my own special day.
But I still rely on The Knot for several things, one of them being "The Wedding Checklist."
This list keeps me on my toes, but also scares the crap out of me. Several items on it just don't apply. Like honeymoon stuff (because we're not doing a proper straight-from-the-reception fly away — or any fly away for that matter, but that's another post in itself) and fancy contracts with vendors.
We have friends helping out and, yeah, we're maybe scrambling a little bit right now with things that I would have liked to had written in stone a couple of months ago, but I have no doubt it will work itself out.
But the immediate tendency is to think, "Well, since I'm not doing everything on this list, am I throwing a cheap-o wedding? Am I being classless? Am I not following some rule of etiquette and everyone is going to think I'm trashy or something?" (At least these were just a few of the questions running through my noggin during the early planning period.)
But no. Thank you OFFBEAT BRIDE! The site balances me out. Yeah, not all aspects of the wedding/reception are totally in line with how most people do it, but so what? It reflects me and my future hubby, there's going to be good food, lots o' booze, rockin' music and FUN. It's a party people!
With 34 days to go, my checklist says I have 78 things to do, about a dozen of which are "overdue." But I am most certainly not worried.