Weddings are expensive, that's no secret. And I'm not going to talk about how expensive it is for food and music and decorations and all that.
There is a post from The Frisky titled "Being a Bridesmaid Drained My Bank Account."
The girl talks about how much she spent and how it was all worth it to be there for her friend, and keep that friendship in tact despite the demands being made by the bride.
This is not the bride I have ever wanted to be. And it sounds like the commenters are on the same page as me.
I am buying all my bridesmaids dressing — something that became important to me 1) after I was in a wedding that did the same and 2) after I was almost in a wedding more like the one described in the article.
Yes, I said almost. Unlike the girl in the article, I didn't hold my tongue, mostly because it was literally making me an emotional mess every time I was told to buy one more thing.
My expense wouldn't have added up the way this girl's did, but I had just moved 1,000 miles away, was only working part-time and didn't want to ask my parents for money. The bride actually suggested I do that last one.
She was upset, but so was I. I wanted to be in her wedding, it just wasn't looking good (plus airfare at that time was expensive due to high gas prices).
Our friendship has never been the same and it likely never will, but the more time goes by, I realize that it's probably a good thing.
But I also realized that I don't want to do that to my girls. Two of them have to worry about travel and hotel expenses, so why make them worry about the dress, too? I asked them to do this for me and their bank accounts shouldn't have to suffer. This was one thing I would not budge on (even when they asked me if they could pay).