Single on Valentine’s Day. Finally, a subject I am ridiculously overqualified to write about.
So here’s my take on it: I will be single on Feb. 14 and I don’t care.
I’m not anti-Valentine’s Day. I look good in pink. I like those little conversation heart candies, flowers and silly love songs. If you’ve got a special someone to share the day with, good for you. If not...so?
In my mind, there are worse times than Valentine's Day to be single, such as:
-- Christmas/Thanksgiving/Hanukkah/Kwanzaa/Festivus: The holiday season can be a minefield of questions about your relationship status, especially if you end up spending it with extended family you only see once a year. Answer confidently -- “I’m single,” “I like my life,” etc. -- and they’ll move on to cooing over your cousin’s new baby.
--New Year’s: Everything’s great until that midnight kiss.
-- Weddings: Admit it. When you get that snowy white invite in the mail, the two most dreaded words in the universe become “And Guest.” I don’t have a guest! Can I still get two pieces of cake?
In fact, compared to the situations above, Valentine’s Day is almost completely pressure-free for singles. You don’t have to buy gifts for anyone. There’s no pressure to like a significant other’s well-intentioned, but sappy gift. (Yes, a giant overstuffed pink teddy bear is just what I’ve always wanted. Cringe).
You could argue that it’s not about the gift, but the romantic thoughts behind it. But part of romance is spontaneity and there’s very little that is spontaneous about a pre-determined holiday of romantic expression.
If you’re single and you want to celebrate Valentine’s Day, go ahead. The Internet is full of ideas -- here’s a good list for single girls from Cosmo.
Send funny cards to your friends (these e-cards made me crack up). Call a family member who means a lot to you. If you want chocolate or flowers, there’s nothing stopping you from getting it for yourself.
It’s just one day and when it’s over, you can start preparing for a holiday that is kind to everyone, regardless of relationship status: St. Patrick’s Day.