I was warned about the post-wedding blues from people and from websites. According to a story from ABC News, one in ten women suffer from the condition.
I thought everyone was crazy. I was so happy to be done planning and to finally call him my husband that the day after I felt a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders.
And for the most part, it's been like that ever since. It's been about three months, so I think if any post-nuptial depression were to sink in it would have been here already. Glad I cleared that hurdle.
But as I've started working on a piece for her magazine about weddings, with a tilt o' the hat to the royal vows coming up, I'm noticing something I hadn't expected ... almost a sadness that the wedding is over. The realization that I'll never have another one.
So there's a little bit of regret — NOT with having gotten married — but with how we did things. Don't get me wrong, I loved my wedding day. It was exactly what I had decided I wanted.
Perhaps "regret" is too strong a word ... I've been experiencing "what ifs."
My problem is that I liked so many different styles that it would have been impossible to incorporate all of it into one wedding. With all the ideas I had, I could have easily had three or four weddings.
So it's a passing feeling, really. It's fun to look at things, like these Farmhouse Ceremony wedding accessories from Etsy and think, "Oh, how cool would that have been!"
In the end, I'm happy with the decisions we made. It ended up being a pretty good reflection of my husband and I and who we are as a couple. And that's what really matters.
If you're experiencing post-wedding depression, most sites recommend speaking to a professional counselor if it lasts longer than two weeks. Also, here are some tips on how to beat the blues.