Last week, Sonya Sorich blogged about an essay in the Wall Street Journal on men who won't grow up.
Today, the author of the WSJ essay, Kay Hymowitz, writes about the angry responses she got from men to the essay. Some of their responses:
We’re not STUCK in pre-adulthood, we choose it because there aren’t any desirable American women. They’ve been bred to abuse men.
Sorry ladies. In the age of PlayStation 3s, 24-hours-a-day sports channels, and free Internet porn, you are now obsolete. All that nagging, whining, and stealing our hard earned cash have finally caught up to you.
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Yikes, harsh. (Side note: I keep envisioning a really pissed-off Seth Rogen, stomping his feet in a temper tantrum)
Hymowitz says she encountered a lot of bitter men while she was researching her book, Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys. Some of their anger is based on immaturity and misogyny, but some of it comes from frustration with what she calls a "gender bait and switch":
Women may want equality at the conference table and treadmill. But when it comes to sex and dating, they aren’t so sure. They might hook up as freely as a Duke athlete. Or, they might want men to play Greatest Generation gentleman. Yes, they want men to pay for dinner, call for dates—a writer at the popular dating website The Frisky titled a recent piece “Call me and ask me out for a damn date!”—and open doors for them. A lot of men wonder: “WTF??!” Why should they do the asking? Why should they pay for dinner? After all, they are equals and in any case, the woman a guy is asking out probably has more cash in her pocket than he does; recent female graduates are making more than males in most large cities.
Sure, girls can—and do—ask guys out for dinner and pick up the check without missing a beat. Women can make that choice. Men say they have no choice.
So women are frustrated because men are immature, and men are angry because women are confusing? Sounds like the oldest problem in the world.