The Engaged Encounter was this past weekend and I'll tell you one thing for sure: it was a long weekend.
It wouldn't have been so bad if we didn't have to travel 4+ hours each way, arriving home around 9 p.m. last night. And we both had to wake up around 5 this morning.
Needless to say, I'm exhausted. Even though most of the weekend consisted of sitting in uncomfortable chairs and not a whole lot of physical activity, I felt drained the entire ride home.
My fiance is not a touchy-feely kind of guy. I know this about him. That doesn't mean we don't talk about touchy-feely kinds of things. We do. And it's usually on his terms, because, well, I'm a girl and I am always willing to talk about that stuff.
This weekend was hard for him because he didn't like to be forced to talk about his feelings.
It was hard on me because he was being a bit of a stubborn jerk about some of the "exercises" we had to do. (He has since apologized and I honestly believe that our discussion on the drive home was more productive than any of the discussions we had during the actual retreat.)
The weekend consisted almost entirely of listening to two older couples (married almost 40 years and 47 years, respectively) reading from scripts they had written (and which had also been approved by some higher Engaged Encounter authority) about their experiences in marriage. Then we were given questions to answer in the form of a love letter to our fiance, followed by a private discussion.
The "lecture" part usually lasted about an hour. The writing/discussing part was about 20 minutes. And once we were done with one topic, it was on to the next.
I don't think it was a bad experience. But I also don't think we talked about or were told about anything we hadn't thought about and talked about ourselves already.
One of the topics that was discussed was being open in your relationship. And my fiance and I are totally open with one another - I couldn't be in a relationship that wasn't that way.
It was definitely an experience, but I personally think it was too much to put into one weekend. I love to write, but after 12+ hours, it becomes difficult.
I'm not putting down the event. I think for some couples, it could bring up a lot of new topics. And I honestly believe that we did benefit from going.
But I also don't think we would be any worse off if we hadn't gone.
The place where the retreat was held was very cool - an old monastery with an awesome chapel attached. And the priest attached to the retreat was one of the coolest priests I've ever met.
I felt a better understanding of the Catholic Church.
Has anyone else attended an engagement weekend event? What was your experience?